Bossy: The New Standard in Work Ethics

I am bossy.

Or so I've been told. I tend to believe that I am direct. Honest and very direct.

Both of my jobs are female dominated and that leads to many a gossip. The problems is that it all, and I mean all,  gets back to the subject. So yeah, I tell people that the manager calls me wasted. She needs to know she's a lush. So I keep hearing that I'm bossy, which is better than bitter and hateful (which they used to call me) but I've trained a lot of the girls I work with at the one job so bossy means they're not good listeners (winky face).

The other day one of those girls I trained told me that I'm the only person she likes directing her when she gets flustered. Apparently my directness is better than being pestered with questions about how she's feeling when her register crashes in the middle of a huge transaction. She's feeling angry. She needs the registers fixed.

So I'm bossy. I get things done and I come across as a bit hostile some days but I also get plenty of compliments, from customers. So do I nice up or continue to boss my equals around?

I can't wait until the day they make bossy me the boss.

Passive, Aggressive or Passive Aggressive

I might be making it up as I go now but I've got a lot to consider, especially how I'm supposed to handle my current stressers.

If you didn't know it already I am an aggressive individual, assertive and confrontational, mostly at appropriate times but you know you get in a bad head space and I may or may not break your face for no reason. I have always felt that confrontation (though not always fighting) solves problems quickly. You tell me why you're angry, I give you my side there is some shouting and someone stomps off, an apology usually follows whether in an hour or a year, and everything is right as rain.

Most people support the passive way of doing things but I refuse to bend over and take it over and over when I have the power to stop all the nonsense. I have a few friends who are passive, we get into sensational fights. Mostly when one of said friends tells me "it'll all be ok." Ok is not ok unless it's the best I can do and at this point ok screams failure. And passive means it'll all be ok because I am not powerful enough nor willing to change it.

Passive aggressive is ironically not a combination of the two, it's slimy. But today I tried it. And it was a bit fun. I did as I was told but took forever doing it, not unlike the person who instructed me to do my job. After two hours working in the same five by five foot space I was told to move on. Usually, I'm not one for making work hard or sizing and reorganizing because it is the most useless work ever, but I only worked three hours and managed to meet all my goals and do nothing, it was epic.

I'm torn now, do I continue this passive aggressive route and win, or do I go all out confrontational, I can lose my job either way, not that I want to keep it but I have to have other options first.

Options, options, options, I remember when they existed.