Aging: How are you handling this whole big thing?

The boss man declared that he is not having a quarter/mid-life crisis. My friend posted the year her intern was born in outrage. And I have to keep reminding people that I don't understand their cultural references, the time they are talking about was mostly mega-blocks for me.

But both the boss man and the friend are (or about to be) the big 3-0. One won't say it aloud and the other hides  behind the fact that she can pass for much younger. So why is this a big deal? I didn't think 30 would be a big deal. He's a rather successful person and she's married and figuring her shit out. But the way they're freaked out has me freaked out.

If my boss can't say that he is going to be 30 in my presence then what the hell am I going to do when I reach that old age? I'm 23 and that scares me, my relative year and a half of stagnation not withstanding, every time I have a birthday someone explains that when they were my age they were married and had children (thanks mom!).

If the past year and a half hasn't put a damper on my by 30 successes then lets not focus on those. Lets focus on the fact that I have no grey hair (suck on that 30-somethings) and only that average 40-somethings sun damaged skin. I have yet to grow crows feet! But can't see past my hands without the aid of ever thickening lenses.

Hurry marry me off before this gets any worse!

Friends and Circles in the Newspaper

I was reading an article in a newspaper that had a diagram of friendships and their influences based on iPhone and Android technology. The circles in the diagram showed that your closest friends don't have as much influence over you as the people you spend your time with. The circles got me thinking. And before you go and get worried that I've fallen into the hands of the crazies again cool it, I am writing this on a reflective note, I am neither angry nor sad.

But I was thinking. My close friends are not really in the vicinity any longer. Some of them never really were, we met in other places and in some cases our friendships are better for it. But my closest friends and I we're so spread that months and years pass without seeing each other. That upsets me a little but not as much as the fact that my close friends that live within ten miles of my mother's house don't have a better track record.

The lack of connection comes as no shock. As a generation of boomerangs we work too hard and drink too much spend the rest of the time we're not commuting and boozing working on finding real jobs in places far, far away. We are a generation of lost boys. We are aging. We can feel it, in our bones and in secret we talk about how it feels to be older. And after laughing it off we go home and cry about feeling old.

My friends and I, we avoid each other because as Logan said the other night "we always have the best plans" but we are mice and men if we are anything.

So I will plan some more. Maybe do a bit of traveling this summer but where I don't know.